You might want to watch your poor choice of words.
So, if the usual emergency SSH console is not available then I would suggest to install Java and use a browser that supports the Java plugin (e.g. Internet Explorer) to launch the Java console to access the server.
From there on I would check the things I mentioned. Also think hard about what exactly you did before @
Dynamo restarted your VPS. It might be the very reason for you not being able to access your VPS anymore.
Alternatively feel free to send me a private message with the login details for your VPS control panel and the VPS itself. I'm going to take a look at it once I have some time free.